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THE GREATAEST MARK OF A FATHER IS HOW HE TREATS HIS FAMILY WHEN NO ONES LOOKING.
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VEIWS FROM THE MOUNTAIN TOP OF FATHERHOOD
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America always finds a way to create conversation around its culture, politics and confidence. The confidence could enhance the brilliance of the American thought patterns or display the shattered nostalgic memories of a time passed long ago.

Recently the fear for a majority of the nation has been financially exhausting to families who survive paycheck to paycheck. Due to rising pricing of everyday goods how does the average American game plan for a spike in cost of living when the minimum wage does not match its counterpart. Does the average American include part time employment to supplement household rising cost. Or do the average American decides to live a minimalist life style to survive until this era of struggle is reduced to an adequate financial state. Granite when our politicians decide to send our sons and daughters to war for “Our Freedom” The American people suffer in more ways than one. The American culture goes hand in hand with…. for lack of a better term struggle for equality of basic rights. Since the inception of America there has always been a need for a marginalized group to galvanize for basic rights from a group asserting dominance. Class has always decided who makes the rules and who has to accept the rules. Fast forward to present times and a great majority of us have to accept the abrupt changes and some of us are immune to the challenges before us.

The basis of our society is not ruled by fear even though being overly informed is just as dangerous as being misinformed. Social media is a great tool to spread information but the most important way to achieve goals is to do it together. Despite class, ethnicity, sex, origin or status. It takes the people to stand as one to band together to set a precedent for what is right and what is wrong.
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Great Movies Featuring Dads of Color

If you’re looking for inspiring and heartwarming movies featuring dads of color, here are some timeless classics to consider:
1. The Pursuit of Happiness (2006) – Will Smith stars in this powerful drama based on a true story, portraying a father’s unwavering determination to provide a better life for his son.
2. Fences (2016) – Denzel Washington delivers a compelling performance as a complex and flawed father in this emotional drama set in the 1950s.
3. John Q (2002) – Denzel Washington takes on the role of a desperate father who takes extreme measures to save his son’s life in this intense thriller.
4. The Inkwell (1994) – This coming-of-age film features a father trying to connect with his son during a 1970s summer vacation, highlighting the complexities of family dynamics.
5. Antwone Fisher (2002) – A moving drama depicting the journey of a young man who meets his estranged father and begins to heal from his troubled past.
These films authentically depict the experiences of Black fathers, offering poignant and powerful representations of the challenges and triumphs of fatherhood within the Black community.

Even though these examples movies pertaining to people and fathers of color, the message remains the same. Fathers of all shades faced with small situations to life changing crossroads in our journey to become perfect parents.

Understanding Great Qualities

To administer them in fatherhood.

Great fathers in real life exhibit similar qualities often seen in cinema. They navigate the delicate balance of being a friend and a disciplinarian, recognizing the individual personalities of their children to effectively guide them through life’s challenges.

The portrayal of men with great values in movies reflects the desire to raise children with strength, emotional intelligence, and integrity. Real-life fathers also seek to instill these qualities, acknowledging that guiding children to make ethical decisions when no one is watching is a testament to successful parenting.

Through experiences and understanding, fathers learn and evolve, striving to be present and engaged while imparting valuable lessons. Despite the absence of a playbook, they draw wisdom from their own upbringing or seek positive role models to navigate uncharted territory.

In cinema and reality, great fathers serve as beacons of wisdom and compassion, leaving a legacy of love, support, and empowerment. They inspire us to embrace the challenges of fatherhood with dedication and grace, shaping the next generation with enduring values.

In Conclusion

BEING A FATHER IS THE HARDEST JOB AND THE EASIEST JOB ALL WRAPPED UP IN ONE. CHILDREN REQUIRE ALOT OF TIME AND ALSO FREEDOM. ATTENTION TO DETAIL HELPS BUT SOME THINGS YOU GOT TO LET GO. BALANCE OF BEING A FRIEND AND A DISCIPLINARY IS LIKE WALKING A BALANCE BEAM. YOU ONLY GET BETTER BY STAYING ENGAGED AND UNDERSTANDING THE PERSONALITIES OF YOUR CHILDREN TO GAME PLAN YOUR APPROACH IN TRYING TIMES. THERE IS NO PLAYBOOK HOW TO BE A GREAT DAD, EXPERIENCE IS THE GREATEST TEACHER. SOME OF US GREW UP WITHOUT A DAD SO THAT PROCESS OF LEARNING FROM OUR FORFATHERS RAISES THE DIFFICULTY OF HOW TO NAVIGATE A ROAD NEVER TRAVELED.

Places to go In Tulsa	What to do
Gathering Place	Explore a world-class riverfront park with children’s playgrounds, splash pads, and family-friendly activities.
Tulsa Zoo	Visit a well-maintained zoo featuring various animal exhibits, interactive experiences, and educational programs.
Tulsa Botanical Gardens	Open outdoor spaces to enjoy nature with the family. Full of Discovery and bonding opportunities.
Discovery Lab	Engage in hands-on learning and interactive exhibits at this children’s museum, fostering creativity and exploration.
Oklahoma Aquarium	Immerse yourself in underwater worlds with a vast array of marine life and interactive touch pools for kids.

Statistics of single mother homes

According to statistics from the U.S. Census Bureau, approximately 19.7 million children, or 1 in 4, live without a father in the home. This absence can have profound effects on children’s well-being, with studies showing correlations between fatherless homes and higher rates of poverty, behavioral problems, substance abuse, and lower educational attainment. It’s crucial to address and support children in fatherless homes to help mitigate these challenges and provide them with the resources and care they need to thrive. As a society, we have a responsibility to acknowledge and understand the difficulties faced by these children and work towards creating supportive environments that can help fill the void left by the absence of a father figure. Counseling, mentorship programs, and community support can make a significant difference in the lives of these children, offering them guidance, stability, and positive role models as they navigate their formative years.

Small things to help develop your child

Movie That are dad movies if you look deep.

Coming to America, (1988)-Eddie Murphy stars in this comedy along with Arsenio Hall, James Earl Jones, and many more. Pay close attention to the fathers in this film and how they navigate the decisions of their children on the Path to Untraditional true love.
Varsity Blues (1999) – In this coming-of-age story starring James VanDer Beek and Paul Walker. This story is surrounded by Texas football and the pressure Coaches/Fathers put on Athletes to be successful while undervaluing relationships and development that would create healthy adults.
Boyz in the Hood (1991) – Lawrence Fishburn stars in this Urban drama as the Sole father figure in this crime ridden neighborhood, ultimately trying to guide his son and his childhood friends through a mentality of kill or be killed with a tone of being smarter than the circumstances you are given.
Do the right thing (1989) -Spike lee Leads this star-studded cast in this urban drama about race relations in New York Neighborhoods. The main father figure Played by Danny Aiello. A traditional Italian father with traditional beliefs demanding respect inside his Pizzeria. While the Mostly African American Neighborhood Patrons Demands respect for Making up 90% of his clientele.
Mrs. Doubtfire (1993) – Robin Williams Stars in this comedy about a Ex-husband frustrated about time with his children. He conjures up a plan to be able to spend more time with his children. Even though the plan is unconventional he is willing to put everything on the line to be in his Children’s life.

The concept of Visual Examples

Art Imitates Life

The reasoning behind posting these movies is because these particular movies show men with great values. It displays situations and solutions to problems YOU as a father may have. Some of us fathers don’t or did not have real life examples to pull from. Find a new show/movie, find a character on that show or movie and pull the best qualities from that character. We could debate on what great qualities could be, but let’s be honest. We want to raise our children to be strong, smart, emotional intelligent and mature enough to make the right decisions when nobodies looking to make sure. As parents/ fathers we can only guide our children to the right decisions. There is no guarantee our children will become who we want them to be. We just hope they make us proud by being great people.

LIVE LIKE A WOLF_._ Embracing a lifestyle reminiscent of a wolf’s spirit involves a deep connection with nature and the elements. The wolf is known for its independence, resilience, and strong social bonds within the pack. Living like a wolf means honoring the importance of community while also valuing self-reliance. Just as the wolf moves with purpose and instinct, those who aspire to live like a wolf seek to navigate life’s challenges with determination and adaptability. This involves embracing the wildness within and finding harmony within the natural world.

“Why wise people often say live life like a Wolf. Wolves never eat carcasses, you will never see a wolf performing in a circus, Unlike other animals. Wolves don’t mate with their mothers or sisters; A Wolf mates with another wolf for life. In the event of a Mates/spouses death, the remaining spouse mourns no less than 3 months, even though it can last up to 1 Year. The wolf is called the Righteous son, because it’s the only animal that honors its parents when they reach old age. When the parents can’t keep up with hunting, the older parents remain in the den, the younger wolves hunt food and bring it to them”.

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Enjoy your family dining experience in Tulsa!

Savastano’s Pizzeria: This family-friendly pizzeria offers a casual atmosphere where you can enjoy delicious, authentic Italian pizza and pasta dishes with your loved ones.
Cinergy: Located near Woodland Hills Mall, a fantastic venue for all ages featuring an indoor movie theatre, exciting axe throwing, challenging escape rooms, and a wide variety of arcade games, it promises fun for the whole family, ensuring that everyone, from children to adults, can enjoy a memorable day of entertainment and leisure activities in a vibrant atmosphere.
Chuy’s: If your family enjoys Tex-Mex cuisine, Chuy’s is a great option with its vibrant and festive ambiance. It’s known for its delicious and customizable menu.
Los Cabos: Located on riverside in Jenks Oklahoma, Great view of the river Authentic delicious Mexican food and environment.
Guthrie Green: Located near the heart of downtown Tulsa. From movie nights, yoga sessions, concerts, up to vibrant music festivals, there’s always something happening here. Food trucks are always in close vicinity, offering a diverse range of tasty options. It’s a great space for family and friends to gather, enjoy the outdoors, and partake in community activities while soaking up the lively atmosphere. Whether you’re looking to relax or engage in fun events, Guthrie Green has something for everyone.
Fixins’ Soul Kitchen: located in the heart of downtown Tulsa, Authentic scratch Soul food, Great Environment, even better menu with great Drinks
Food and Family has always been a great way to build relationships with people you love, Also with people you would like to know better. “Breaking bread” has been an easy way to show grace since the beginning of time.